Master, Doctor Phan Chi Thanh – Chief of the Office of the Training Center (National Hospital of Obstetrics and Gynecology) said that during the consultation process on sex and sexuality, doctors encountered many cases of “out of phase”. in sexual life, even in young couples.
Most recently, a 40-year-old man, from Hanoi, came to the doctor because he thought he was very poor in his marriage, and at the same time he wanted the doctor to advise him on drugs to suppress his wife’s sexual needs.
This husband shared that his wife is over 30 years old, has a much higher sexual demand than her husband.
“Sometimes I don’t want to, but my wife takes the initiative to come forward, if she doesn’t respond, she sulks and talks back and forth with her husband. Because of this, I feel less confident and unable to have sex,” the husband said.
Regarding husband and wife love, this man affirmed that he still loves his wife and children very much, and at the same time admits that he is obsessed with his wife being too strong and he is too weak. Doctor Thanh advises this couple to sit down and talk openly with each other, without using drugs to suppress the wife’s sexual needs, and if the husband is “weak” he can really treat men.
The fact that the wife is active in sex is a good sign, both should openly share their needs and feelings with each other. (Illustration)
According to Dr. Thanh, a situation like this one is not uncommon. However, the doctor said that the wife’s initiative to do “sex” does not mean that the need is too high or there are sexual abnormalities.
“It’s very rare for women to have an abnormally high sex drive, but the story of the couple above is simply a ‘out-of-phase’ between the two. When a husband is “weak”, seeing his wife’s demands, he thinks that his wife’s needs are high, but in fact this is a woman’s legitimate need and proves that women are completely healthy and normal”, said Dr. analysis.
According to the doctor, the problem of the difference in sexual needs will change over time, but not everyone is the same and depends on many issues, especially the health of each person.
Usually, when they are newly married, both will be very energetic, then in the period of “spring recovery”, the demand will be higher than that of men. During perimenopause and menopause, the demand for women decreases.
“A woman’s sex drive will depend on the hormones estrogen and testosterone. When there are high levels of the hormone estrogen in the body, there is often a high sex drive and vice versa. According to the monthly cycle, the time of ovulation, women will have the highest sexual demand and tend to actively ask for sex, “Dr. Thanh analyzed.
The doctor said that the need for “sex” of women is only unusual when it upsets daily life, affecting health. For example, always obsessively wanting to have sex, not being able to control sexual behavior, affecting work…
In that case, it is necessary to see a doctor to get the most accurate diagnosis. Usually, people with abnormally high sex drive will be due to many reasons such as being “super-male” ie having 2 Y chromosomes, or mental disorders, endocrine disorders …
