Erabaru.net. A bride-to-be has revealed that she wants her stepfather to walk her down the aisle rather than her biological father because he was more of a presence during her childhood.
However, her decision annoyed her father and now he refuses to go to her wedding. Her older sister, who was her bridesmaid, even called her ‘ungrateful’ and ‘bad princess’.
“My biological father was not a big part of my childhood,” he wrote on Reddi. “My brother and sister have always had a good relationship with him.”
He continued: “On the other hand, I have a good relationship with my stepfather. He was more like a father to me than my biological father in my entire life.”
“My brothers were much colder towards my stepfather because they saw him as the one who separated my parents. Even though it wasn’t him, the dissolution of the marriage rests with my mother and my biological father and they are much better apart.”
“In recent years, I reconciled with my birth father and we have a relationship.”
“I’m currently planning my wedding with my fiancé,” he continued. “My older sister will be my bridesmaid and my brother will be one of the groomsmen. I was discussing plans with my sister and mentioned that my stepfather would walk me down the aisle. He’s drunk.”
“Started ranting about how ungrateful and terrible daughter I was to my biological father. He left in a huff.”
“A few hours I got a call from my real dad saying he wouldn’t go to the wedding if he didn’t walk me down the aisle, how my stepdad walking down the aisle would embarrass him, and what if I cared about him. I’ll let him walk down the aisle. I told him I would rather he not be there than for my stepfather not to drive me.”
Her decision had ‘divided’ her family, so her mother and stepfather suggested she let her biological father walk her down the aisle to ‘keep the peace’.
“I got a lot of messages from my real dad’s family calling me and telling me I was an a**hole for depriving my real dad of this,” she adds.
People on Reddit commented on her post, with many saying it was her choice who she wanted at her wedding.
“From the information you’ve provided it’s pretty clear your birth father omitted this moment,” one person wrote.
“This is your wedding. Not your biological father. Not stepfather. Not your mother or your sister. Your wedding should be such a joyous and frustrating event that your family is stepping back instead of supporting you,” said another.
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Source: smalljoys
