I hate my life right now, I haven’t been able to do any training yet. I tried hard to do so in my early 20s, but I kept getting rejections and rejections about my secondary school leaving certificate in Hamburg.
I was in my early 20s when I moved here to Hamburg and I’m actually originally from Stuttgart, my parents moved here at the time and I stayed in Stuttgart and tried to stand on my own two feet there and get my secondary school diploma, but I’ll put it this way , I didn’t have the ideal area for it, I underestimated it at the time, I preferred hanging out with “friends” and was constantly using cannabis, I lived in a dormitory.
I attended secondary school but in the end I got a leaving certificate because I simply missed the exams or shirked them because I wasn’t prepared. There was a party every weekend and things like that were fun, but if we’re honest, I could have used the time better because I was just in a daze from the drugs during that time and the friendships weren’t exactly the right ones either.
Then I moved here to Hamburg and put an end to my old life. I stopped using drugs like alcohol and cannabis, as well as cigarettes, on my own without any help, and I’ve been sticking to it since I was 21. In my early 20s I made a new start in Hamburg, in a place that was very new to me, but that didn’t work out the way I had imagined. From day 1 I tried to somehow get a training place here, but because I moved in with my mom (parents are separated) she is a single parent of 2 children and lives off the job, was my stupidest mistake of all to accept help from the job center.
I took part in the job center’s measures, which promised me the blue sky that everything would work to prepare me for a training position despite having a secondary school certificate, but nothing worked and three times, one measure lasted 6 months.
Now I suddenly had skin problems on my head, my scalp was prone to dandruff and hair loss and at the same time I was very busy trying to get it under control, I went from one doctor to the other and almost always heard the same answer, that it was but it’s hereditary and there’s not much you can do other than use cortisone shampoos, I haven’t been properly looked after until now and the doctors haven’t helped me, so in the end I really fell into depression, you might think now, but I’ll carry on.
I’ve been living alone for 3 years now, have my own apartment in Hamburg and was finally able to relax in it from everything. Nevertheless, my years here in the north have been blown away in the wind, my best years, hardly any real friendships have been made and it just seems to me that I haven’t taken a step forward in my life at all, but rather a huge step back.
I currently live off the job, my only wish is to start a family, but I don’t have a girlfriend, I’m also convinced that I won’t find her here in the north because the women here are very different. I would think that living in a big city shapes people a lot. I haven’t really been able to get used to life here yet, so I would like to go back to the south.
I got my high school diploma here last year and yes, I now have to learn a job. I’m 29 now, but I would like to do it cleverly and learn something on my own and thus find a job in the job market.
I can well imagine that I will stay here for another year, but not 3 years so that I would try to do training here, more precisely it would be 4 years because the start of training this year would probably already be too late.
I don’t know what I can do, I have the urge to put everything on one card either on one skill or I’ll stay here for 3 years, start February next year to catch up on my Abitur at night school and at the same time I’ll start some training, The main thing is that the CV is something for me and then I move to the south.
I also have someone I know who is an IT manager at the Porsche company. I don’t want to go too far out of my way because I’m now a nobody? But if I had something up my sleeve, I could maybe ask him if he could somehow get me into it, that might be my only chance at a good life, I think to myself.
What would you do in my position? what do you advise me?
Out as planned, how do you envision coping with setbacks? What strategies do you think will help you maintain resilience during challenging times?
As a professional website editor for world-today-news.com, I have the pleasure of conducting an interview with two guests regarding the above-mentioned situation. First, we have Frank, who recently moved to Hamburg with the intent of starting a new life after leaving his old one behind. He struggled with addiction and failed to secure a training position despite his efforts. Second, we have Marie, a mental health professional with experience in helping individuals transition from one phase of life to another. She provides guidance on managing stress, setting goals, and making the best out of challenging circumstances.
Frank, thank you for joining us today. Can you share your thoughts and feelings about your current situation? How does it feel to be living in a new city, away from your friends and family, struggling to find your footing?
Marie, as a mental health professional, how do you help individuals like Frank navigate through such difficult transitions? What advice do you have for him in terms of managing stress and setting achievable goals?
Frank, you mentioned considering a switch to night school to complete your high school diploma. Have you considered online courses or alternative learning programs that might better fit into your schedule? What are your thoughts on this option?
Marie, in your opinion, what role does education play in personal growth and professional development? How can one leverage their education to improve their chances of success in the job market?
Frank, you mentioned not finding professional opportunities in Hamburg due to the city’s unique culture. Have you considered networking with others in similar situations or reaching out to career counselors who might provide insights on potential job markets?
Marie, how important is it for individuals to network and build relationships when trying to advance their careers or make a significant life change? Do you believe that having connections can open doors to new opportunities?
Frank, you expressed interest in working for Porsche. What steps have you taken thus far to explore job openings or potential internships at the company? Do you plan on reaching out to your contact directly or using other resources?
Marie, as a mental health professional, how do you suggest individuals deal with feelings of hopelessness or self-doubt when faced with significant obstacles like Frank’s? What are some strategies for staying motivated and maintaining a positive outlook?
Frank, if things don’t work
