Hamburg. Altona therapist Ursula Böhm helps her clients to get back into conversation and look at the injuries.
The wife of one entrepreneur seeks the practice of Hamburg couple and family therapist Ursula Böhm. She is at a loss and needs help because her marriage is in trouble Crisis.
The psychotherapist Ursula Böhm with her practice in Altona specializes in advising people in difficult phases of their relationships. For example, it’s about unsuccessful communication, affairs and financial problems. From a therapeutic perspective, forgiveness and forgiving always play a role in the conversations – the possible basis for a new beginning – without having to separate. Which would of course also be an option.
Couples therapist Ursula Böhm works in a group practice in Altona. © Practice Community | Practice community
Couples therapy: An entrepreneur hid his debts from his wife
In the case of the entrepreneur and his wife, it becomes clear to the therapist after the first consultations that “somehow trust has been lost between the two of them,” as Ursula Böhm says. After three months, the man brings up something that he has kept secret from his wife for six months: his company is bankrupt and heavily in debt.
“In an hour he unraveled everything that had gone wrong professionally,” remembers the couples therapist. And his wife?
She felt hurt that he didn’t speak openly to her about it, but instead kept a cloak of silence. But she found a way to deal with it in the process. And to forgive him.
Relationship Crisis: The Healing Power of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is an action that has healing power. While forgiveness is more about accepting the past and the current situation, forgiveness is a give and take, something very active. “When forgiving,” says the therapist, “the couple enters into a dialogue. They both accept what happened and realize that they hurt each other. This means that everyone recognizes their own part in the crisis.”
In the case described, both were able to talk about it and find a way to make a new, common beginning through forgiveness. This usually happens in a longer process. Forgiving is just a journey.
In her consultation room, which is always decorated with a large bouquet of flowers and mysterious pictures, Ursula Böhm offers a reconciliation ritual: the couple sits opposite each other and says what happened. Someone says: ‘I see that I have hurt you.’ The other person responds and a dialogue develops, often with tears. If this communication is successful, at the end there are the healing words: “I ask for forgiveness” – “I forgive you.”
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