I would like to write this article for the lost full time housewives. Especially for those who are hesitant about graduate school or want to take on a challenge.
As the coronavirus pandemic began in 2020, my husband and I entered graduate school. (My husband is in the spring semester, and I am in the fall semester)
The difference was that my husband was an office worker who received support for graduate school tuition and salary, and I went from full-time housewife to graduate student.
The first reason I went to graduate school was because I was jealous of my husband who went to graduate school. I was very jealous of my husband who was studying for the first time in a long time. As someone who watched him go from being a friend in high school to going to college and then going to work, I wanted to applaud his growth and I was ‘ a strange feeling of envy too.
The second reason was my vague hope that graduate school would stop my journey.
My husband, I was lucky enough to get full-time support for tuition and living expenses from my job, but the biggest obstacle for me was that I wanted to go to graduate school as a full-time housewife. time It was teaching. Of course, if I wanted to go to graduate school, it would be natural for my husband to send me away, even if it meant going into debt, but I didn’t want to add myself to the two children, which costs a lot of money. , titled housewife.
If you were in your twenties, the university’s name value and core value might be the most important things when looking at graduate schools. Maybe you were preparing to get an MBA at a major university or go to law school. But, for me in my forties, it didn’t matter that I was able to get a job or that it was helpful in my career. So, I decided to major in philosophy among the studies of life and death at a humanities graduate school that receives research funding from the government, so tuition is free, and even a small fee but research activities are supported .
In fact, I learned about this graduate school thanks to the priest at the church I attended. He studied philosophy in his master’s degree and majored in life and death in graduate school, and I really enjoyed the philosophical study of life and death. Living in Seoul, I majored in business administration and immediately joined a large company. – world to me. how are you living What was more important to me was The question was how to win. but At that time I am how come Depending on whether you are alive or not Badly worry carry out It was. the company Help Aim grow one day spirit When I edited it me now what carry out Yes Guernsey Because it was a time when I had no idea.
In conclusion, I highly recommend it to full-time housewives who are considering graduate school. The reason is as follows.
1. You can learn an opportunity with a real purpose.
Most studies in Korea have a reason. To get a good job, to make money. If I had gone to graduate school in my twenties, I think it would have been for my career. But this time, I was able to learn with true academic curiosity. Just because you’re over 40 and studying life, death or philosophy doesn’t mean you’ll get a job. Therefore, you can have the opportunity to immerse yourself in the study itself. While studying philosophy and the humanities, I felt comfortable learning about the lives that geniuses thought were ahead of me. It could be said that I had the honor of standing on the shoulders of giants and seeing how those who experienced my journey and my concerns first wrote them.
2. You do less to your children.
Before I went to graduate school, I engaged in habitual self-pity. I thought I was giving up my entire career and just focused on my children. Therefore, there were many signs that Sky Castle’s Ye Seo would become a mother, exclaiming, “I sacrificed so much, but you must be perfect!” However, when I went to graduate school and started studying, I didn’t have time to date and I could feel for myself how difficult it was to study. together. I was able to understand that I should learn on my own and not ask someone to tell me to do it. Instead of asking the children to study, let me work hard! Would you say this is my logo?
3. I understand that there is no right answer in the world.
The biggest thing I learned while studying in graduate school was learning that there is no right answer in life. I realized that no matter how good or special a person’s words are, they are just opinions and assumptions. If as a child I believed what I felt was right and was like a lion to death, now I understand that everything I was was just an opinion thought that was right. When I was writing my thesis, I realized that I was only talking about one big topic and using different evidence to support it, but it was not a real principle. If there is no right answer in the world, there is no way to live. So, I was able to be a little more relaxed about raising my children. I finally learned that my children don’t have to grow up the way I think is right.
Going to graduate school is difficult in many ways for a full-time housewife. Nevertheless, I would like to recommend graduate school to many people who, like me, wallow in self-pity or feel empty in life. Once you get into it, you realize that all I cared about were just excuses. There are more types of scholarships than you might think, and children grow up well even if their mothers give them less attention.
Isn’t it a bit late to go to graduate school at 40? No. I went to graduate school at the best time of my life. This is the right age to stop guessing.
one more! At least my children cannot say such challenging words to me.
If you liked it so much, did your mom try to study?!
or
Mom, try to study. How sad!!
