Some marriages look very harmonious and sweet to outsiders. But only you, the person in it, can know whether that marriage is warm or cold. A happy marriage must have mutual management between husband and wife.
With marriages on the verge of breaking up, the couple must have made mistakes in the management process.
As a result, small conflicts escalate into major conflicts, and major conflicts turn into irreconcilable hatred.
In fact, the vast majority of couples have a bad relationship not because the other person has violated some principle, but mainly because in the process of harmony, trivial everyday things make the other person feel uncomfortable. Your partner feels increasingly unloved, making you feel like you don’t have a good, happy life.
Human hearts are like that, every time they have a thought, they will inevitably think in the direction they imagine. If you have prejudices in your heart, the world around you is naturally full of prejudices. In order for husband and wife not to have prejudices against each other, one of the things they need to do is avoid lending each other these 3 things.
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1. Lend money to the other person
Most couples pool their money together and will have their own small “black fund”. But, there are some couples who do not manage each other’s money, each person spends the money separately.
If nothing special is happening in your life, it doesn’t matter. But if when your partner is having trouble, you only think about how much money it will cost and don’t care about the other person, then your relationship is really going downhill.
And if the other half needs money for medical treatment or has lost money and is in debt, you make a clear division and create a debt paper forcing the other half to pay you back later, then sooner or later such a marriage will have problems.
In marriage, when husband and wife have made clear plans with each other, their feelings will easily have cracks.
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2. Borrowing the other person’s love and trust to betray the other person
It would be a terrible thing if husband and wife had different dreams in the same bed.
In life, there are many men or women who always feel that the other person loves them deeply, always trusts them, and cannot live without them. So they think that even if they do something wrong, it won’t be a big problem.
Even relying on the love their other half gives them, they will do whatever they want, even attacking the other person’s limit over and over again.
But they don’t know that everyone has feelings and principles, and a one-time offense can be tolerated, or it can be an unintentional mistake. But if you do it repeatedly, you are destroying the relationship between two people.
No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, if you borrow the love and trust of the other person, hurt the other person, or even betray the marriage, problems will immediately arise.
3. Borrow time from your partner or family
Each person’s time and energy in a day is really limited. And what you are willing to spend time and energy on proves that it is important.
As a married person, in addition to working and making money, you should of course focus more on your lover, children and family. If you constantly borrow time from your partner or family for work, gatherings with friends, etc., sooner or later problems will arise.
Don’t cut into family time too much. You should cherish every moment when you are with your other half, don’t always make your other half wait. At the same time, you should try to talk and interact with family members to cultivate affection and trust.
If husband and wife, parents and children do not have time for each other, they will not be able to understand each other, and this relationship will gradually grow apart.
