A woman married her boyfriend at the age of 42 despite her boyfriend’s family’s strong insistence that they were “absolutely against it.” Immediately after that, a long scroll-like text over 11 meters in length filled with complaints and curse words from the mother-in-law and mother-in-law was sent to the woman’s parents’ house, and the husband was constantly forced to make advances from his parents’ house. I was really at a loss because I was constantly being made demands and requests.
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[Synopsis of the first part]Ranko Katagiri (pseudonym, 50s, married), who lives in the Chubu region, gets divorced at the age of 37, then starts dating a man she met at the age of 39, and receives a marriage proposal. He says, “I’m sure Mom and her sister will be very against it, but I’ll definitely try to convince them, and if that doesn’t work, I’ll marry them even if I don’t want them to be.” But…[Click here for the first part]His family
Ranko Katagiri (pseudonym, 50s) got divorced at the age of 37 and started dating two years later. Her partner was a man of the same age who worked at an IT company.In addition to her parents, she had a sister who was six years older than her and a brother who was five years older than her.
Mr. Katagiri had already been asked to marry her, but for some reason he was driven to the brink of despair. Let’s briefly introduce the profiles of the members of his family who are responsible for this.
His father’s income was unstable because he had changed jobs repeatedly since the beginning of their marriage, and he was living in a detached house from his paternal family. In order to support the family finances, his mother left her older sister and older brother with her grandparents (her mother’s stepparents) and worked at a factory, but the relationship between the daughters-in-law was not good, and her father-in-law His relationship with his relatives was also poor.
Just before he was born, his father was criticized by his grandparents and other relatives for not having a regular job, and they had a heated argument and had to move out of the family home.
As a result, even though many relatives lived nearby, they were left in a state of ostracism, with no interaction other than ceremonial occasions.
When his father’s business management stabilized, his youngest son was born. Unable to leave the child with her step-parents due to a severance in their relationship, the mother became a housewife and devoted herself to caring for her son.
His father suffered from a serious illness when he was in high school and was unable to attend university, so he was passionate about education, saying, “I want my sons to go to good universities.” As a result of their efforts, both his older brother and he went on to the top or second-ranked preparatory schools in the area and went on to famous universities, which caused the neighborhood to look at them with envy.
However, due to the male-dominated mindset that was common among men in the past, her older sister strongly objected, telling her, “Women don’t have to go to university. Just work somewhere you can commute from your parents’ home.” With his girlfriend’s mother on his side, he decided to go to a university outside the prefecture.
Eventually, his father passed away in his 70s when he was 30 years old. He had blood cancer.
His mother lost her parents in the war when she was young. Perhaps because of this, his attachment to his family was strong. He controlled his children by making them aware of his wishes and by relentlessly punishing them when things did not go his way. Although he treats those he feels are superior to him in a friendly manner, he tries to mount those he perceives to be of a lower rank, so even before he becomes “ostracized,” he is constantly in trouble with his neighbors and relatives. Ta.
On the other hand, his older sister was strongly influenced by her mother and had constant conflicts with her father, who had a patriarchal ideology. When she didn’t like something, she ran away from home, and she controlled her family by threatening to cut ties with her. She has a lot of pride and doesn’t feel comfortable unless she’s the best, so she married him against her family’s wishes, gave birth to her son, and soon they separated. Her ex-husband readily agreed to the divorce, but in order to get his demands met, he took the matter to divorce court. He currently lives with his son, who is a college student.
His older brother works at a publishing company, is married in his 30s, and has a child in college. Because of his opportunistic and overly principled personality, he did not protect his wife from her mother-in-law and mother-in-law’s jealousy after marriage, and since two years ago, his brother’s wife has refused to have any contact with the in-laws’ family. He is ostentatious and sloppy with his finances, and he repeatedly borrows money from his brother’s wife, only to find out and ask her brother’s wife to help him.
Regarding his youngest son, Mr. Katagiri says:
“I’m rather optimistic and easy-going at my own pace, but he has a sensitive personality and can’t sleep unless he wears an eye mask or earplugs.He’s good at being prepared for what’s ahead and staying calm. I’m a person who can judge by looking at those around me, but for some reason I found it strange that I easily got angry with my own mother and sister, and that I was easily persuaded.”
