6 months pregnant, daughter reveals shocking truth
Ms. ML, 39 years old, in Binh Duong will never know the truth about her daughter if she does not confess that she is pregnant.
Her daughter is only 16 years old. In everyone’s eyes, she is a quiet, quiet girl who only knows how to study and study. She couldn’t believe that her child was already in love at just a young age, let alone that he dared to do “adult things”.
Before the 6-month pregnancy, the daughter revealed that she had had 3 abortions (Illustration: Pixabay).
Shouting at her child, she said, “Let’s go to the hospital tomorrow!”. Unexpectedly, her daughter knelt down and begged her mother “not to force an abortion”. She said that after 6 months of pregnancy, her boyfriend took her to an obstetrics hospital in Ho Chi Minh City for examination and was told “no intervention is possible”.
In a panic, Ms. L. insisted: “There will be a place, there must be a way,” and her child burst into tears.
Once again, the mother was shocked when her son confessed that he had aborted three times before. The first time was when I was 14 years old, with another boyfriend. This time, when the fetus has grown, I am afraid of the warning that repeated abortions, especially in adolescence, can easily lead to infertility.
Like many mothers, when she learned about her child’s terrible situation, Ms. L. thought she would find a way to manage it herself, without letting her husband know. But she fell into panic, at an extreme deadlock, not knowing how to deal with her child’s over-term pregnancy, plus the history of 3 previous abortions…
She could not imagine and was not prepared for her young daughter to give birth. The only solution she can think of is to “solve”, hoping that life will be as less chaotic as possible and also for her child’s future…
A girl in Nghe An became a mother at the age of 15 (Photo: D. Hoang).
Faced with the current painful situation of teenage girls getting pregnant, children being “stuck” pregnant is a problem that many parents have to face and have to come up with plans and choices.
According to research by UNFPA (United Nations Population Fund), about 17.4% of Vietnamese women have had an abortion, the average number of abortions is 1.3 times/person. Among them, 73.1% had had one abortion in their lifetime, 21.8% had had two abortions, and 5.1% had had at least three abortions in their lifetime.
Doctors and psychologists encounter cases of high school age students having 2-3 abortions, or even more than this number, which is not uncommon.
Abortion, is it over?
“Abortion is complete” is the thought of many teenagers when faced with the consequences of unsafe sex. That is also the thought of many parents facing the situation of their teenage daughter having an unwanted pregnancy.
Doctor Nguyen Lan Hai, author of the book “Drawing a Line for Deer” once met cases where parents asked for instructions on how to remove “mines” for their daughters. The latest is the case of a 16-year-old girl who got pregnant by her boyfriend. Her parents heard many people advise her to “quit immediately” for the sake of her child’s future.
According to Ms. Hai, how to solve problems today will lead to results for tomorrow. Many people advise taking children to have an abortion to deal with the consequences of previous sexual intercourse. Many people may think that having an abortion means being able to ignore the consequences that the people involved have to endure, and solving everything.
Adolescents who give birth and raise children face many risks in the future (Illustration: Pexels).
Besides the fact that the fetus has the right to life, many consequences of abortion make doctor Nguyen Lan Hai believe that a young woman who has had sex and has an abortion will easily be dependent on her boyfriend for her life. . Many foolish girls often live and die trying to hold on to that man, holding on like a “lifesaver”.
They will have to continue having sex and may once again be faced with the decision to keep or abandon the life growing inside them.
According to Dr. Lan Hai, when a mother aborts her first pregnancy, the answer for subsequent pregnancies will often be to continue abortion. Girls will have to face many dangerous complications such as infection, bleeding, hysterectomy, infertility…
Doctor Nguyen Lan Hai said that in many cases, abortion does not necessarily solve the problem but can also increase the problem.
In this case, the family can discuss together to arrange a peaceful place for the child to give birth and learn to be a mother. When the child is old enough to get married and mentally mature, if the young couple still loves each other, both ways will be fine. And if both sides go their separate ways, they will also avoid an unwanted marriage.
The female doctor also mentioned a study showing that about 18% of sons of teenage mothers tend to commit crimes and end up in prison, and 22% of daughters of young mothers will also become teenage mothers. teenager like his mother.
This requires grandparents to have a thoughtful plan to care for and support their grandchildren so that they can develop comprehensively and healthily.
According to current regulations, Vietnamese law guarantees women’s right to abortion, except for two cases where abortion is prohibited: when the fetus is over 22 weeks old and for gender selection reasons.
The law does not prohibit abortion, but abortion is related to ethics and viewpoints. There is no common solution for everyone, but those involved must choose, decide and take responsibility.
Aborting or keeping a child pregnant is, after all, the end of the matter. For a child who is at the age of eating and playing, aborting the fetus or keeping a germ will leave unpredictable consequences on the mind, body, and future of the mother and child.
The most important thing, according to experts, is to seriously pay attention to the issue of sex education and reproductive health for children.
Sex education for children must start with helping children appreciate their bodies and dignity (Illustration: Hoai Nam).
Education helps children understand, appreciate and preserve their own value and dignity. Thereby, to have girls who understand the importance of reproductive health and do not easily give themselves away, or boys who know how to respect their girlfriends and live responsibly.
Children need to be provided with knowledge about gender and sexuality in a scientific way, without avoidance or intimidation. This knowledge includes safe birth control methods and how to recognize signs of pregnancy to help children recognize it early so they can have a reasonable plan. Recognize early so that in case you have to have an abortion, you can also avoid having to have a major abortion and face many dangers.
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