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Married couples should acknowledge that they have different values and not insist that only their opinions are right. When nagging is about to come out of your mouth, you also need patience. [사진=클립아트코리아]“When my elderly husband opens the refrigerator, he nags me. I heard that there is too much food piled up, and some old food… If you help me a little with housework, I’ll be condescending. I put up with it when I was earning money, but now I have to share the lyrics too, don’t I? He nags me about trivial things, and I get hot in the middle of the sea.” (Wife)
“When I wash my hair, I don’t remove the missing hair. I always clean my wife’s hair in the bathroom when the water doesn’t drain well. We live alone, and the front door is full of (her wife’s) shoes. There is no place to put my shoes. There is a shoe store right next to it… “(husband)
As life expectancy increases, couples live together for 20 to 30 years even after retirement. When a husband and wife live together in one space, they may face a different environment than when they live with their children. Couples who have lived together for decades say to each other, “I didn’t know too much what kind of person they were.” It is an expression that he does not want to touch flesh because he only sees his weaknesses rather than his strengths. It’s to the point where I’m worried about how I’ll live for the next 20+ years.
Wives feel uncomfortable when their husbands are at home all day after retirement. Starting from serving food, she bumps into more than one or two things. There are cases where you can’t even fart or burp. If the husband has the patriarchal personality of the past, the heartache can be even worse. There was once a case where celebrities cited ‘differences in personality’ as a reason for divorce, but I didn’t know I would feel the difference in personality. It has become another task for the couple to wisely pass the 20 to 30 years of living together.
Amicable relationships between middle-aged and old-aged couples have a great influence on healthy life expectancy (healthy longevity). ‘Marriage satisfaction’ is not only applicable to newlyweds. Marriage satisfaction is still an important topic for couples who have lived together for over 30 years. A paper published in the international journal ‘Innovation in Aging’ found that a decrease in marital satisfaction in old age increases the risk of dementia. As a result of analyzing the effect of marital satisfaction on cognitive function in Korean elderly people, the lower the satisfaction level, the lower the cognitive function.
An unsatisfying marital relationship can act as a stressor and damage the brain’s ability to remember. The effect of marital satisfaction on cognitive function was twice as large for men as for women. They were more likely to engage in behaviors detrimental to cognitive function, such as smoking and excessive drinking, in response to stress from unsatisfactory marital relationships. In addition, they are less likely to engage in brain-stimulating activities such as leisure and social gatherings, which can lead to faster cognitive decline.
So what if you live alone without a spouse? Is living alone good for your mental health because you’re free? A recent study published in the Korea Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s journal ‘Weekly Health and Disease’ found that couples who currently live with their spouses are happier than those without a spouse for reasons such as divorce, separation, bereavement, or unmarried. It is said that getting out of the loneliness of living alone and relying on each other helps to live a healthy lifespan (healthy longevity).
Health status was closely related to maintaining mental happiness. In particular, it was found that people aged 75 and over were more happy when their subjective health status was good. Lower happiness was in the order of poor medical care despite being sick, arthritis, diabetes, and high blood pressure. It can be said that it is a research result that confirmed that happiness comes from a healthy body. Actively participating in religion, friendship, leisure (leisure), volunteer activities, etc., and actively contacting the surroundings helped maintain a sense of happiness.
Even people who have lived freely all their lives and insisted on being single often regret it when they get sick. It’s because the presence of the side of the side is desperate. After middle age, both husbands and wives suffer from major and minor illnesses. Not only women but also men suffer. If the ‘wook’ temper has become severe, you can suspect male menopause. As we get older, even couples who have been together for a long time need their own independent space. It is a space where everyone can immerse themselves in the world of what they want to do.
You should also throw away the idea of trying to change your spouse’s personality and habits that have been going on for decades. We must admit that our values are different and do not insist that only our opinion is correct. When nagging is about to come out of your mouth, you also need patience. This is because a word spoken without thinking can become a sharp knife to a wife or her husband. The couple are old and sick. The era of relying on children for a sick body has already passed. In the end, the couple has to work it out. The only person who warmly embraces an old and sick wife (her husband) is her husband (wife).
2023-08-22 04:36:28
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