My wife and I have been married for over a year. Life after marriage is basically very good.
My wife is a beautiful, gentle girl. During my pursuit, she repeatedly rejected my feelings. She said she was not excited about getting married, after witnessing the unhappy marriage of her parents.
It took me a lot of time to conquer and give her faith in love and happiness.
Once, she asked me: “I’m married, no matter what happens, you won’t leave me, right?”.
I decisively replied: “Unless you have an affair, there is nothing so serious that you have to leave each other.” I used to think it was just a normal question from a girl with a lot of worries.
We got married in the happiness of our two families. Immediately after getting married, knowing that my mother was difficult, I immediately went out to avoid conflicts between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. My wife belongs to the type of woman of the family, is responsible, obedient, so I love to pamper her even more.
My mind is confused when I think about choosing between my current marriage and paternity (Picture: Getty).
Only thing, married for more than a year, even without using contraception, my wife is still not pregnant.
I consulted a few acquaintances who are doctors. They said, husband and wife living together for more than a year without children was considered infertile. There are many reasons that lead to late children, it is necessary to visit a doctor to know for sure.
I confided this to my wife, but she didn’t seem eager or worried. The wife said: “Children are a gift from God, you can’t rush it”.
My wife said to let everything be natural, if after 2 years there is no pregnancy, I will go and check it out.
Although I really want children, I don’t want to put pressure on my wife. Besides, I’ve heard that many couples have no problem but have been married for many years before having children. Well, try to wait a little longer.
Many times when I see my friends go where there is a child to carry, the baby is wrapped in tangerine, the desire rises up in me. I see that my wife is also sad, seems to have started to worry.
One night, seeing my wife’s phone in chat mode, I glanced at the screen to see who it was. But the content in it left me dumbfounded.
My wife is infertile. She knew it before she got married and purposely kept it hidden. Recently, seeing that I was anxious about having a baby, I was worried, texting and talking to you that I didn’t know what to do.
When I looked up, my wife was already standing at the door. Before I could say anything, I noticed tears streaming down her face.
The wife said before, she once loved a person, both of them were thinking of getting married. His mother suggested a pre-marital examination. Boyfriend is the only one in the family. They want to make sure their daughter-in-law has the ability to give birth normally.
Unfortunately, as a result, she was unable to bear children because of a uterine malformation. The love affair also ended soon after.
Receiving two shocks at the same time, it took her a long time to be optimistic again, thinking that she would never get married. Because no man accepts a wife who cannot bear children.
When she met me, she refused several times. But seeing me pursue enthusiastically, the desire to be a bride, to be a wife made her make a selfish decision.
Wherever my wife said it, my heartache went there. I’m just an ordinary man who wants to have a wife and children like everyone else.
I know she has suffering. But how could she keep such a big secret from me?
I’d rather she told the truth from the start, I’ll think about it. If love is big enough, I am ready to accept that defect and have clear plans after marriage.
Here, she hid the secret, putting me in the “already” situation.
Currently, I find it difficult to accept that I will be childless for the rest of my life. But leaving his wife and marrying another wife to exercise fatherhood is too cruel.
My mind was really confused, both loving and angry at my wife. I love her, but will marriage without children be the connection, will it last forever?
