He focuses on the matter: “I see the need for people to come and get to know and consume content. It’s a need that is not being addressed enough. Married people have their own community, their own frameworks, they have an organized social system, and when you’re single you have no way of belonging to such social circles. You have the narrow circles, and some people don’t have that either. They are in contact with family, and that is their main social circle. Our attempt is to create a community that gives social exposure that will also break the circles and increase the possibility of meeting partners. I think many people have a great need In a place where they can get out of their natural space and meet new people. And as the years go by and the number of singles increases, this need expands. In the last ten years, singles have become a public. A public that has not internalized that it exists, but it is a public.”
Yossi recognizes himself in this community. “On a personal level, I’m looking for a partner, and on a general level, I’m trying to create a social system that will give people the opportunity to meet and consume culture with their peer group. I don’t feel comfortable going to places where young couples go. I prefer to go to places with people who are similar to me, who have the same struggles When the topics being discussed are not related to my life, such as when to change a diaper and how to educate the children, I don’t feel part of the situation.” At the same time, he emphasizes that their meetings are not preoccupied with bachelorhood. “There are classes about faith, about a week’s parshah, about NLP, a Rosh Chodesh party, many things that are not related to singleness itself. People want to come to an event with people who are similar to them, but that will not necessarily be the title of the meeting.”
According to him, the way to deal with singleness as a phenomenon is through the state institutions. “I think the state needs to address this issue and the population, which unfortunately is growing, and it needs to provide solutions. Also practical how to get to know more people, both escort and advice and also create meetings that are not necessarily for dating.”
Talking to him is an interesting experience. I’m slowly getting used to his quick transitions from the private position to responsibility for the general, for a moment he talks to me from the inside and immediately after that he switches to a description from the outside. He moves comfortably between the different locations. To my question about his routine life, he answers: “My everyday is more or less similar to other people, it’s not exactly the same because I don’t have the children in the evening. Some people will say that this is an advantage because in the end you live your life and you enjoy life. On the outside maybe There is the bright side that you have no commitment, but in the end everyone has the ambition to get married and the need is a real, mental and physical need. Freedom is a simulated freedom. Sometimes it’s a cage of gold.”
Yossi emphasizes that he does not want to convey a feeling of danger, but “this is not a natural situation and it is not true to how we planned our lives, no one thought he would be single at such an age. This is how life unfolded and we try to get the best out of reality.”
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