“Why Using Violence as a Method of Discipline is Not Effective”

Natalia Mayorova

2 hours ago

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The child does not obey, is naughty, insolent …

With age, the picture of the world in children changes so much that even the most accommodating child can turn into a bully or capricious. But a belt and cuffs will not help in the fight for good behavior. A small child will start to be afraid of you and close in on himself, while a teenager will perceive your actions as a reason for conflict, he may even run away from home and attempt suicide. This must not be allowed! Not to mention that physical influence is violence, not a method of education!

Remember yourself

Remember that you are the adult when it comes to dealing with children. In addition, you have already been in the role of a child and can imagine yourself in his place. By resorting to assault, you sign your own impotence, your inability to find a common language with your children.

Better remember your childhood: you probably quarreled with your parents, believing that they do not understand you. So the belt aside – we are mastering the basics of diplomacy.

peaceful way

I got a deuce, scolded the teacher, brought my grandmother to tears … Do not rush to yell at the child and reach for the belt. Try to calmly find out the cause of bad behavior, talk to the teacher, grandmother, etc. And then calmly talk to the child, find a solution to the conflict together. And believe me, you won’t need strength!

If the child is not in the mood to communicate, there is no need to insist. Knock on his room before entering. Do not take his personal belongings without permission, do not look through his personal diary and gadgets without asking. When there is respect for personal space and things, then it makes no sense to rebel.

“I’m near!”

Make it a rule to ask about the mood, well-being, needs of the child. Show him that it’s not just his diary with A’s and a neatly made bed that matters to you, but his whole life. Let him know that you are always ready to listen and help. Then there will be nothing to punish.