Breaking up with a partner is never easy, but when the relationship is complicated by a cancer diagnosis, the decision to end things can feel impossible. For one woman, however, leaving her boyfriend after he was diagnosed with cancer was actually the best thing she could have done – not just for herself, but for him too. In this article, we’ll explore her story and the different feelings and considerations that come into play when a relationship is complicated by a serious illness.
A woman has revealed that she will be running the London Marathon for her ex-boyfriend, Jelle Fresen, who was diagnosed with grade 4 medulloblastoma in September 2022. The rare tumour type affects adults less frequently than children and can be difficult to diagnose and treat. Despite the couple splitting up after Jelle’s diagnosis, Danielle Epstein has decided to run the Marathon, with Jelle’s support, to raise funds for Brain Tumour Research. She hopes that the challenge will be a nice tribute to Jelle, who has previously completed marathons before his diagnosis.
Jelle was diagnosed after suffering from dizzy spells and vomiting whilst the couple were in the process of buying a house in London. Although treatments for his tumour resulted in him re-learning to walk, it unfortunately also caused nerve damage resulting in paralysis and a squint, causing double vision. Physics teacher Danielle struggled with panic attacks and her mental health worsened due to the stress of her partner’s diagnosis. After moving to Thailand with her father, the pair have remained friends and will continue finding ways to support each other.
Danielle hopes that by running in the London Marathon, she can show her love for Jelle whom she still deeply cares for, and eventually raise awareness about the critical importance of funding research to improve brain tumour treatments. She argues that the United Kingdom should be at the forefront of scientific innovation, and that more research and trials are desperately needed to develop novel and effective treatments. The lack of advances in tumour treatments were reflected in Jelle’s case where less effective treatments for a presumed ear infection preceded his cancer diagnosis.
Carol Robertson, National Events Manager for Brain Tumour Research, expressed gratitude for Danielle choosing to run the marathon to support the charitable cause. She also called for individual entrants with own ballot places to join the charity’s Fighting Force London Marathon team.
The London Marathon draws thousands of participants and spectators from all over the world who support various charitable initiatives, particularly in medical research. Brain Tumour Research is one of the many noble causes that participants can raise funds for. The event is historically renowned for its ability to bring people together to make a difference in their communities and nationally, highlighting that everyone can make a difference in their own way. The sheer volume of such charitable events underscores the role they play in raising funds and awareness for various charitable causes, including the importance of medical research in the context of fighting and treating various illnesses.
In conclusion, leaving a loved one after a cancer diagnosis is never an easy decision to make. However, sometimes it’s necessary for both parties to move forward with their lives. While it may seem counterintuitive, choosing to separate can actually be an act of compassion and love. By having the courage to make the difficult decision, you can give your loved one the space and freedom they need to focus on their health, while also giving yourself the opportunity to grow and pursue your own happiness. Ultimately, every situation is unique, and only you can decide what’s best for you and your loved one. But if you’re struggling with this decision, I hope this article has provided some clarity and comfort as you navigate this challenging time.
