As we age, many things change including our libido. But what happens when a man in his 60s wants to have sex all the time? Is his high sex drive normal or a cause for concern? In this article, we will explore the topic of aging and libido, and decipher if this man’s sex drive is typical or if there is an underlying issue at play. So, let’s delve into the world of sex and aging to uncover the truth about a high libido in a man in his 60s.
Sexual desire tends to decrease with age for both men and women. Therefore, when a person is in their 60s and still maintains a high libido, it may seem unusual. A woman wrote to The Guardian with concerns about her partner’s high libido. She claims that he initiates sex most nights, which is too often for her. She assumed men’s sex drive would slow down with age and wonders if this behavior is normal.
In the full version of her letter, she mentioned that her partner is not taking Viagra or any other drugs for erectile dysfunction. Studies suggest that men over 60 only account for a third of Viagra sales. Sexual difficulties often affect men over the age of 60, which is why they have less sex frequency overall. A University College London study in 2019 found that 37% of men experienced a decline in sexual frequency while 26% of men had trouble achieving an erection in the past year.
An experiment conducted ten years ago by a psychologist surveyed 5,000 people and found that only 5% of heterosexual couples aged 45-55 had sex every day. Furthermore, some never had sex while 31% had sex monthly, 42% weekly, and 15% annually. Research also suggests that people aged 55-64 average twice per month, while people aged 65-74 have it once a month.
A 2018 study from the University of Oslo explored sexual behavior in European men aged 60-75 and found that men in Norway, Denmark, and Belgium had sex two to three times a month, while men in Portugal had sex one to three times a week. The study’s authors suggested that this proves that men in southern Europe have more sex than men in northern Europe. However, this data was collected by phone, which may have led to a degree of exaggeration.
The woman is concerned about her partner’s high libido despite her own relatively high sex drive. It could be that the high libido is due to the newness of the relationship, where sex tends to occur more frequently. Even so, it’s crucial to communicate one’s feelings about sex in any relationship, as it requires a give-and-take mentality to find a comfortable balance. Habituating to the new stimulus or boredom sets in around six months to a year.
However, some people become addicted to the dopamine buzz of a new sexual relationship and pursue a succession of new partners, leaving a trail of broken hearts. If this is the root of her partner’s high libido, it probably won’t be an issue for too much longer. Suppose my readers experience a comparable scenario to the woman’s letter. In that case, it is essential to establish open and honest communication with their partner. It’s essential to find a balance that both people are comfortable with and seek professional help if needed.
