As society expands and normalizes the existence of non-traditional relationships, couples have found solace, joy, and heightened sexual pleasure in the concept of a throuple. Unlike monogamous relationships, throuples consist of three individuals who share emotional and physical affection for each other, which can lead to a renewed and revitalized marriage. In this article, we dive into one couple’s experience of how joining a throuple has brought them happiness, adventures, and the most mind-blowing sexual connection they have ever encountered.
Dil Wickremasinghe and Anne Marie Toole are a couple in love, married for eight years and with two beautiful children. However, after more than a decade of monogamous relationship, they started to feel that there was something missing in their lives. Four months ago, a remarkable thing happened. Another amazing woman entered their lives, and the three of them started living as a “throuple.” They became involved in a sexual and loving relationship that allowed them to enrich what they already had. As relationship norms are evolving, this type of polygamous relationship is becoming more common in our society. Throuples and other types of polyamorous relationships are gaining more prominence in popular culture.
As psychotherapists and owners of their own practice, Insight Matters, Dil and Anne Marie are privileged to be able to openly share their story. Among their 600 clients, they have noticed that there is a significant number of people exploring polyamorous relationships but are unable to talk about them. They feel a duty to represent these people and fly the flag for them in hopes of moving society forward. Dil says that they’ve seen a significant increase in polyamory, not just for the LGBTQ+ community but also for straight individuals.
The idea of becoming polyamorous was first brought up by Anne Marie last September, and even though they were familiar with the concept of ethical non-monogamy, opening their relationship to a third person was still a huge step to take. Dil trusted their love and agreed to explore this further with Anne Marie. Dil and Anne Marie spent three months processing the idea of becoming polyamorous by engaging in personal therapy and psychosexual therapy to help them navigate the way forward. They also joined polyamory support groups and read books and listened to podcasts on the subject. They eventually found C on dating app, and they all felt an instant attraction to each other.
What works for the throuple is having time together as a trio, as well as caring for each individual relationship. They spend time together going on throuple dates, twosome dates, and also meet up with their kids. They celebrate events like St. Patrick’s Day together.
Having a throuple relationship has brought about a revitalised sexual connection between the women, which has been incredibly exciting. For Dil, the sexual connection brought a new energy to their lives. Society often makes us feel that we shouldn’t talk about sex, but it is as important as food and water, and when you’re not having fulfilling sex, you feel frustrated.
When it comes to jealousy, Dil says that it usually comes up when people haven’t expressed their needs, and the people around them haven’t worked to respond to them. However, she hasn’t felt jealous from the start and has only experienced joy. Dil believes you cannot get into this type of relationship if you’re not emotionally aware and connected to your needs, or there will be absolute devastation. When feelings come up, it’s important to express them as opposed to holding on to them.
In conclusion, Dil, Anne Marie, and C’s story shows how relationships evolve over time, and how people can navigate their way through these changes. They showed courage, commitment, and patience in exploring their relationship and took the necessary steps to make sure that adding a third person would enhance their relationship rather than destroy it. As society progresses and norms change, people will explore different types of relationships, and these relationships should be respected and celebrated. Throuples and other types of polygamous relationships are here to stay, and it’s up to us to understand and accept them as part of the diversity in our society.
In conclusion, the decision to become part of a throuple has undeniably revitalised this couple’s marriage. By embracing an alternative relationship dynamic that emphasises communication and emotional honesty, they have rediscovered a sense of joy and sexual intimacy that they may have otherwise lost. While not everyone may be comfortable with this kind of arrangement, it’s important to remember that love and intimacy can come in many different forms. Ultimately, what matters most is that we stay open-minded, respectful of others’ choices, and committed to finding the path that works best for us.
