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A romantic event where two people meet by chance. And they fell in love with each other just in the second they looked into each other’s eyes. It may sound like a fantasy novel. But there are many young couples who come out to confirm that I have experienced love at first sight that happened to me before.
Such an improbable love story. It makes me wonder if deep emotions can suddenly arise in a person. How is the scientific principle explained? To prove that love at first sight is real or just an illusion.
Love or Lust?
A team of scientists from Rutgers University in the United States It points out that love can be subdivided into three types of emotions in three periods: lust (lust) or sexual desire, attraction. (attraction), and attachment (attachment)
These three types of emotions are mixed in different proportions. They are, however, related and complementary to each other, gradually evolving from sensuality to intimacy. Until finally being able to create true love
However, a research review published in the Indian Journal of Endocrinology and Metabolism in 2016 noted that the three emotions that are components of love are They occur in completely different brain processes. Each emotion has its own brain circuitry and neurotransmitters.
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sex hormones like estrogen and testosterone which is controlled by the amygdala, the emotional control center Make people have libido or sexual desire up. As for feelings of attraction towards the opposite sex It is controlled by the reward and stress centers in the brain. It contains the happiness-boosting hormone dopamine, the hormone noradrenaline, and the stress hormone cortisol as neurotransmitters. For that feeling of attachment The hormones oxytocin and vasopressin play a huge role.
For this reason, scientists consider love at first sight to be not the emotion of true love. But it was just being attracted by opponents in the early stages. This is not yet complete with the components of the brain process that will cause complete love.
Dr. Deborah Lee, British reproductive health expert Explaining this point to Live Science, “Love takes time to originate and develop into a strong feeling. Most psychologists consider that Love at first sight that happens at the first sight of each other is absolutely impossible. You may be fascinated by the look and feel of strong sexual attraction at first. But over time, people fall in love with their quirks. Including the values that hold and the skills that that person has instead
Dr. Eric Raiden, a British clinical psychologist, confirmed that Love at first sight is really only lust or lust. “The feeling of fascination is like a spell that only lasts for a short time. If you are looking for a life partner that will last a lifetime, love at first sight is not a sign that he or she is the right one. It’s just physical attraction. rather than lasting romantic love.”
Love or addicted?
Dr Raiden further explained that “Love has a huge impact on your body and mind. While euphoric feelings mixed with obsessive thoughts Your body will release more happy hormones or dopamine. The hormone oxytocin is known as the hormone of love. It involves feelings of warmth, connection, and trust.”
“These chemicals tend to increase. At the time when two people already felt a connection between them. Rather than an increase in the early stages of sexual desire and attraction.”
Dr. Lee added, What happens in the early stages of love, or what some people think is love at first sight? There are quite a few similarities with drug addiction. The brains of people who initiate love are stimulated in the same areas as the brains of people who use cocaine.
“When a person who begins to love and care is obsessed with the things of the person who dreams of Emotions will swing back and forth. I feel like I’m going crazy to act impulsively Living in a world of dreams rather than reality Some people may even have behaviors that are highly dependent on their loved ones. It is no different from a drug addict,” Dr. Lee said.
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However, a study published in the journal Frontiers in Psychology in 2016 suggests that these addiction-like symptoms fade away on their own. When the couple’s relationship has developed beyond this stage After being in a relationship for many years
In addition, memories distorted over time. It may also cause couples who have been together for a long time to be mistaken. thought that they had fallen in love with each other at first sight In spite of the fact that it took them a lot of time and effort to find true love.
A 2012 study published in the Journal of Neuroscience suggests that people’s memories can be distorted when reminiscing. and will become more and more inaccurate as time passes due to the influence of emotions that occur simultaneously in that event
A 2018 study published in the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience suggested the possibility that Some couples who have been together for a long time may have “Positive illusions” (positive illusion) to the point that attitudes towards the other person are too good to be true. In which they overlook all conflicts and suspicions, as if constantly looking at the world through rose-pink glasses.
This state of affairs may cause the lovers of the sky to understand themselves that They were born for each other from the beginning. and destiny made them fall in love easily at first sight without seeing the fact that How much time and effort do they have to spend growing love trees and surmounting obstacles?
