The PO’s original mother said girls will live with boys if they don’t love each other. (Scheme / pixabay)
Recently, a netizen said that she asked her mother when she was in middle school, if she wanted to marry her other half, because she hasn’t lived together before, so as not to be trapped by her children in the future. My mom actually replied, “Girls don’t love themselves so they can live with other people.” Now my mother is still emotionally blackmailing her, saying that she regrets having her, which made her very broken.
The original OP recently posted on the Facebook group“Common Explosive”The article said that couples are blind when they are in love and rarely have normal calm. Is she still the person I know?” When she was in middle school, whenever she heard that a girl was living with a boy, she would think that after the girl broke up, she would lose her job. “At that moment, I asked my mother : Since I will be married for the rest of my life, why can’t we live together, know each other’s habits, ideas and background in advance, so as not to get married later, find out that it is not suitable, suffer and be trapped by children.
My mom said, “Girls don’t love themselves so they can live with others. Having sex before marriage shows that girls must be messy and can open their thighs to anyone.” The original agent pointed out that it wasn’t agreed with this sentence, and at the time also quarreled with his mother: “You and your father have never lived together, and you do not know the situation of their family (my father is an Aboriginal, and a single parent, with many children), and all your post-marriage habits are inconsistent, and you’re just picking on me (no hit me, but call me dirty)”
Yuan PO complained that if the parents lived together first and separated after finding out they weren’t suitable, there would be no children as an excuse to bond them. After all, it will take from 3 to 40 years. at mother’s house it became my nightmare, every time i leave her house, i feel very sad. Your misfortune is not caused by me. Why do you tell me you regret having me? Why do you tell me I let you be like this for the next 30 years Unlucky? Why did you say you’d kill me if I knew first?”
After this article was exposed, netizens commented, “I really can’t agree with this point of view. From your point of view, can you try it first and you will have no regrets? Is there no more problem now? AIDS, mental illness, emotional injury, STDs, it’s just the morality of modern people.” Weak sense, no better than before! He was responsible, modern people are more irresponsible (personal opinion)”, “If you can be independent, I believe you can decide your future partner without looking at your mother’s face, but in Before this, as long as you were still living at home, you had to accept his face”, “Not all parents have this kind of self-consciousness. If you don’t realize your wounds, it will be hard to avoid harming the next generation. Always be vigilant with yourself, all of us Don’t be that kind of parent.