[Colonna Love Media Lin Yi]I wrote earlier that many parents expect thanks from their children, but many children expect an apology from their parents. Take an example from Japan.
A master’s degree from the University of Tokyo, a former Japan Economic News reporter, who made 70 adult films, and former Japanese AV actress Ryomi Suzuki, who was shortlisted for the 167th Akutagawa Award for her novel “Gift” (ギ フ テ ッ ド) to forty this year, three thousand congratulations Almost all comments are “from Taiwan”!
On the night the Akutagawa Awards were announced, she didn’t show up, but drank at Shinjuku’s Cowherd Shop.
Her father is a university professor and her mother is a children’s literature researcher and translator. With such a “right” family background, she recounted in “Begins at the Limit” that she started selling plain underwear when she was in high school. . in.”
Today’s mothers are too intelligent and complete, this type of “motherly love” makes their daughters feel a strong sense of suffocation. Since all of the daughter’s (psychological) behaviors have been understood, her daughter’s praise is also a conditional and exchange-type statement.
This sense of domination causes the daughter to invisibly enter a transparent trap and nowhere to escape, unable to breathe or hide her shadow. Suzuki said that until her mother’s death, she eventually lost the object of confrontation and even the sex work that was most despised by her mother lost its appeal and meaning to her.
In a family, the daughter is always the mother’s most merciless observer. Even the harshest critics of the mother.
The Lin Zhijian dissertation scandal clearly shows us that NTU is not as bold as it is, and Gao Hong’an’s qualifications allow us to understand that the Zice Club is worse than the Flank. The same goes for Ryomi Suzuki, the Shinke Akutagawa Award winner for her true feelings towards her mother.
It is brutal but also very real. Especially in the marriage relationship of our generation and beyond, we always emphasize the relationship of reconciliation between educational qualifications and economic abilities, but marriage is an increasingly progressive thing. Women have more and more rights, but fewer and fewer obligations; women are demanding more and More, more and more male obligations.
In today’s marriage, there is no longer any tradition, and even a good wife and a good mother are like bad words.
The author is a literary prize winner
Photo credit: Screenshot of the cover of Ryomi Suzuki’s work.
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