Often girls are faced with a situation where, with an interesting acquaintance, the guy she likes is reluctant to invite them on a date. I want to see you, but it is a shame to impose myself, and it is traditionally believed that the first step must be for a man.
Many note the frightening tendency of men to expect to be conquered, to fight for their attention, to be active and purposeful. Driven by such moods, the “knights” await deeds from beautiful women: calls, messages, confessions, proposals.
How to invite a man on a date and at the same time not lose your positions, not change roles with a man? – this question is asked by many girls, faced with the need to take the initiative. In some cases it’s certainly justified (for example, modest, shy guys need some sort of nudge, inside), but there are situations that don’t require any activity on the part of a woman.
How to randomly invite a man on a date?
First of all it is necessary find a reason to meetas natural and credible as possible. So it will be easier for a girl to express an invitation (not everyone is ready to come and immediately say: “I like you! Let’s go for a walk!”, And the risk of being rejected will be minimized, since the the invitation will resemble a request for help, companionship, etc.
Choose the right time and place (both for the date itself and for inviting her), as well as a method: during a personal conversation, via SMS or call, correspondence on a social network.
The right attitude is half the battle. Regardless of the emotions that rage in your soul, outwardly you must try to be as calm, friendly as possible, not to betray your excitement. The invitation should sound natural, friendly, comfortable.
Find the right approach to a manto make him feel his need to meet.
A little feminine trick is to push the man, to make the long-awaited appointment happen, but at the same time the man considered the meeting his own initiative. The easiest way is to talk about your interest, passion, share plans to visit a particular place, for example:
“I have heard that a new club will open soon, they promise an interesting concert program. I haven’t enjoyed it in a long time, I’d love to go there. You will go?
“Did you hear that nosoha and ostriches were brought into our zoo? So interesting to see “.
“I can’t find a place for myself with joy: next week, finally, the premiere of a new thriller! Would you like to keep me company? “
“We were going with a friend to go to town, but her schedule has changed and she will have to work on this day. It’s so offensive … It’s boring to go alone, can you help me? “
“I have a bike rental open nearby, so cheap! I haven’t taken it yet, but my friends drove, they were very happy. Will you keep me company? “
“Are you busy on Friday night? So I want to go to the ice rink, but I skate badly. I would do well to have cheerful company and strong hands to tear me off the ice if I suddenly lay down beautifully.
The essence of the strategy is to “write” imperceptibly, in the process of conversation, your invitation, to charm the boy with something interesting, so that he wants to go there himself and will gladly accept to keep the company.
What not to do
“suggest” more than 2-3 times, otherwise from the outside it will look like a frank hunt;
invite him in front of witnesses (colleagues, classmates, acquaintances) – the date has not yet happened and everyone is already aware of it;
do not rush to invite him immediately after the breakup: he may feel nostalgic for past relationships and there is the possibility of rejection;
avoid intrusiveness, do not complain: “Well, please, come with me!” – if you doubt;
avoid any romantic component, for example, write a message in verse (a man can consider the first step as an invasion of his freedom, imagining that he is already dragged to the registry office and occupying all the free hangers in his closet with their clothes );
counting on a serious relationship and inviting a guy on a first date, it is better to refrain from any manifestation of sexuality in order not to create the impression of easy accessibility.
How do men of different zodiac signs relate to the manifestation of female initiative?
Considering that people born under one or the other zodiac sign have similar characteristics, then they react to certain situations in life more or less typically, in a predictable way.
The Pisces man, for example, even if he has sympathy for a woman, due to natural indecision, does not dare to call her on a date for a long time, thinks in detail, evaluates all the pros and cons. Therefore, he will be grateful to the woman for the initiative and the first step. However, you have to be careful not to spoil the impression of yourself and not to scare him
The same can be said of Libra, Cancer, Virgo men: sometimes they lack resolve and the initiative coming from a woman will only be positively perceived if she is free from obsession and haste.
Men-Lions, Gemini, Taurus, Scorpions, for their activity and assertiveness, do not need the first step on the part of the girl: they will do it on their own immediately and with all determination. Aries tend to immediately try to clarify the situation, so you need to be prepared for the fact that the question may follow, “Is this a friendly meeting or do I mean a little more to you?”
Sagittarius behavior can seem strange and twofold, and all because he, like no one else, needs an emotional response from his partner. Then the representative of this sign will probably also respond positively to the girl’s offer to spend some free time together.
Why can a guy be slow to ask for a date?
One of the main phobias of the strong half of humanity is the fear of being rejected.
Too busy schedulelack of free time, which is why the initiative, despite being scheduled, is constantly postponed (“I need to finish the quarterly report …”, “I’ll just be back from a business trip, I’ll call you and invite you to the cinema “,” I need to finish my diploma urgently … I’ll finish – and celebrate: I’ll call you on a date! “).
Excessive shyness, indecision. He can have her sweetest feelings for the girl, go around her, without daring to invite her for a walk.
He has a girlfriend.
Not interested in dating for a specific period of time for personal reasons (experiences associated with a recent breakup, unrequited love for another girl, etc.).
He does not approve of a woman’s initiativebelieving that it is contrary to his nature as a conqueror.
What to do in case of refusal
For female pride, rejection is the worst thing that can be, especially if the attempt to invite the man you like on a date was the result of a lot of thought and mental rush. However, it should be understood that this event is far from a tragedy and you need to be grateful to a man for honesty (if, for example, it turns out that he has a girlfriend, and this is how it motivates him to reject him. ). You must try to cope with emotions so as not to give vent to your disappointment and discontent.
A good way out of this situation is a phrase said with a sweet smile like, “You know, I proposed exclusively in a friendly way – I don’t invite men on dates first. But that’s okay, I respect your position, you’re doing fine. .
