Sunday, November 21, 2021 | 6:05 a.m.
Laura and Diego have been a couple for 5 years. They share aspirations, dreams and decided that together they want to start a family with children. While that determination to search was kept private, each month the pressure began to feel stronger and stronger. Anxiety and stress were unavoidable and although medically you have to wait a little longer to be able to analyze the variables that did not make the pregnancy possible yet, the environment helps to release tension. The insistence of friends on fatherhood reached the climax of being unbearable.
Comments that seem to pass, harmless, in the middle of a birthday celebration for example, hit hard again and again. Maintaining a passable attitude was a feat that lasted for a few minutes, and then unleashed an irrepressible anguish in the privacy of the home.
Social pressure wreaks havoc and causes the worst mixed feelings. Therefore, for those who are dealing with fertility treatment, it is essential to monitor both the environment and the psychological, according to the specialists.
” Perhaps unintentionally most of the time, the people around the couple put pressure on them at family gatherings, at friends’ gatherings, or suddenly all the friends get pregnant. It is not at all easy to deal with the situation, especially for women because fertility is a matter of the couple but the one who suffers socially is the woman. It is to her that they ask ‘what happens that you do not get pregnant, the husband is playing football, the trick with friends and nobody asks him: what happens to you that you do not get pregnant? It is the woman who bears the social burden of fertility, ” said Juan Carlos Hobecker, a reference for the Provincial Assisted Fertilization Program that works for free at the Ramón Madariaga Hospital in Posadas.
As reflected by the specialist doctor, the demand for fertility is constant and is increasing year by year. Today, after the brief stoppage of the pandemic months, it has reestablished itself to pre-pandemic levels. Already in 2019 it was counted that more than 500 couples per month consulted for these treatments.
” The couple comes with a very significant emotional and emotional charge, the search for a baby and the non-conception is very frustrating. One assumes that it is very easy: I have relationships and I get pregnant, that happens to adolescents that the last thing they want is to get pregnant, couples who start looking for boys, before they were 15%, today they are 25% who are going to have to Go to the medical consultation to see what happens that they cannot procreate, ” said the professional.
Among the reasons why it is more difficult to get pregnant, Hobecker lists the postponement of family life, prioritizing studies, job promotions and other experiences. For this reason, the majority of the consultants are older than 35 years and a quarter are older than 40, which complicates the possibilities. In addition, there are also usually some basic diseases such as infections or varicocele, but the rule is that you want to be a father at a later age, added to dragging a ‘poor quality of life’ as the doctor considers and exposed not only to more contamination to bad news and stress.
It is advisable, when in doubt, to carry out studies and rule out pathologies, while for healthy couples over 35 years of age, a search of no more than 6 months is recommended before requesting assistance and for the range of 25 to 30 years, up to one year search.
” Treatment depends on the cause, ” Hobecker explains. ” You may have a 30-50% chance of achieving pregnancy per attempt. One in three or one in two women, in the best of cases, achieves pregnancy, ” he remarked on the possibilities.
In this way, ” non-conception is extremely frustrating, the couple must have a lot of psychological support because repeated failures hit a lot. They suffer a lot because they are willing to do what needs to be done to achieve a pregnancy and sometimes even though everything seems to be fine, the pregnancy does not come and it is very heavy to bear, ” the doctor concluded.
Sunday report
The family, in constant deconstruction
‘I don’t want to have children’: the personal decision that fights against social mandates
Convinced of not wanting to be parents, more and more young people consult for vasectomies
Those who decide not to follow the official roadmap of life
No single or universal formulas
Anxiety about achieving a desired pregnancy
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