All parents must love their children so that without realizing it they want to always be able to give anything. Starting from all the needs to facilitating every child’s desire, parents will definitely strive for it in various ways. Unfortunately, this kind of thing actually leads to an attitude that tends to pamper.
Various reasons were passed by the parents to justify their attitude. Here are some reasons that are quite typical and are often used by parents as an ‘excuse’ to spoil their children.
1. Consider the child as a valuable asset to be willing to give anything
Every parent would think that their children are the most valuable treasure. Even though it is true, the impact of this will not infrequently lead to a pampering attitude. Because they are considered too valuable, parents are willing to give whatever their children want.
In fact, not all children need various kinds of pampering in the form of luxurious expensive goods and facilities. Here parents are required to be more selective in meeting the needs of children, between primary and tertiary, in order to avoid the emergence of negative impacts on the child’s growth and development.
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2. Don’t let children live their childhood like they used to
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Most parents think that their less happy childhood should not be experienced by their children. When they think of past memories when they couldn’t get their favorite toy, these parents then promised themselves that their child would always get whatever they wanted.
This understanding, although understandable, is actually not quite right. It’s okay to give the child’s wishes, but not everything and without first trying. It’s okay to give what you want, but it must be in accordance with the needs that will support the child’s growth and development more positively.
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3. Feeling able to give anything, including facilities at fantastic prices
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This kind of thing usually appears in parents who have middle to upper middle financial ability. They feel they are materially capable of meeting their children’s needs with various facilities and items that sometimes children don’t even know how to use.
Not infrequently also because they feel sufficient, they think that this action is a natural thing. Until finally parents have not felt the need to improve their habits. Until in the end the child gets used to being pampered without understanding the meaning of working hard first.
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4. Feeling bad when the child is sorry
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In other cases, the forerunner of the habit of pampering children can actually go unnoticed by the parents themselves. They just feel they have to always fulfill the child’s request and will try to work on it. There are even parents who don’t have the heart to refuse their child’s request.
As a result, children become accustomed to getting what they want and risk being selfish in the future. Sometimes this parental attitude can also be used as a ‘weapon’ by children so that their desires can continue to be fulfilled. It’s very dangerous.
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5. Feelings of guilt for having to leave the child to work
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The feeling of guilt that arises is very natural for working parents. Busy work that has taken up time finally makes parents think to make amends for their mistakes. Instead of creating togetherness on the weekends, it is not uncommon for parents to choose to spend their money to make their children’s wishes come true.
Though, redeeming through quality time Even without luxury facilities, it is actually able to meet the expectations of children. Because for children, there is no expensive item in this world that can replace togetherness with their parents.
Basically, the level of self-indulgence can vary between parents. However, the key to the threshold lies in adequately meeting the child’s primary needs. More than that, any amount of pampering is still not worth the attention that can form emotional closeness.
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