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INDONESIAN EYE, JAKARTA – Sex is an important part of a healthy relationship, among many other elements. When you and your partner are out of sync sexually, it can strain a healthy relationship.
You both may have completely different sex drives, and you may worry that it’s part of your relationship.
First of all, sex drive can change for many reasons. Things like hormonal changes and stress can affect it.
Libido can change several times during life, so it is very common for couples, especially those in long-term relationships, to experience changes in libido.
While it may be stressful, it doesn’t mean you and your partner are no longer compatible. Here are 3 ways to make the different sex drives work:
Talk about it
It is best to be open and honest with your partner. An open line of communication free of judgment is one of the most vital ways to make any relationship work.
Sex life is always an intimate thing to talk about, even with those closest to you.
By opening up your feelings for sex, you will have a better understanding of how your partner is feeling, and vice versa. If your relationship is particularly strained, consider seeking a couples therapist.
Compromise
Once you have a better idea of how your partner is feeling, work together to find a solution.
Choose the right day and time when both of you will be energized, physically and mentally. There’s nothing wrong with scheduling a sexy time! Work on your schedule and find something that fits.
Another tip is to make sure you find a position that is comfortable for both of you. Combine toys, try a different lubricant or condom.
Take advantage of foreplay and take the time to drive your partner crazy to enhance the experience.
Also, don’t be afraid to masturbate. If one of you isn’t happy with the whole show, try helping your partner! You won’t know what’s best for you and your partner until you try it.
Focus on intimacy, not just sexuality
When you think about getting intimate with someone, you probably don’t think cuddling is at the top of the list.
However, when we interact with other people through contact such as hugging, cuddling, or touching, this really amazing hormone called oxytocin is released in our brain. Oxytocin makes us feel comfortable, safe, and loved.
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