Falling out of love and getting divorced is a kind of pain, a sudden change that many people are not mentally prepared to accept. But if you know how to change your outlook on life at the right time, divorce can be painful but not necessarily something too bad.
Nothing is completely good or completely bad, everything has its left and right sides. Just like divorce, sometimes it can awaken a “sleeping” woman and make her emerge from her cocoon to become a beautiful butterfly.
My husband and I were married for 8 years, but this marriage ended not long after I gave birth to our second child.
The reason was because her husband had an affair.
At first I lamented my fate, but after a long time after the divorce, I realized that divorce is not the end. After a broken marriage, both parties are at fault, whether more or less. If I could have understood these truths earlier, perhaps my life would have been completely opposite, receiving more joy and happiness.
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1. Just because that man truly loves you doesn’t mean he will never change his mind in this life.
After 2 years of love, my husband and I got married. The first time of marriage was very passionate and sweet. I used to be very proud and satisfied with this marriage, with my husband. Because I don’t have any noble desires, just meeting someone who treats me well, is willing to give me his heart, and the two of us live a peaceful life through the years is enough.
Remember 8 years ago when we first got married, the couple would kiss each other every day before going out. Then the kisses given to each other became less frequent, full of reluctance and no longer as sweet as before. Because by then the kiss he gave me had already been shared with another woman. Remembering the old memories and the promises he made made my heart ache.
A man can love you very much but that doesn’t mean he will never change his mind in his whole life and will only be loyal to you. So don’t immerse yourself too deeply in the honey of love, don’t fool yourself and ignore any unusual signs in your marriage.
Don’t sleep too much, don’t wait until the other person is about to leave to know that he or she no longer loves you. At that time, you will be in shock and will be unable to lift your spirits for a long time.
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2. In the world of love, women must not let themselves go from being loved to having to ask for love
After the divorce, I always asked myself why I always treated my husband well and gave everything to him but he still changed his mind. When in love, he is the one who actively pursues me and pampers me to the fullest.
After getting married, my husband and I gradually changed roles, my husband became less proactive, and I changed my role from princess to “nanny” of the family. I started to proactively ask him what he wanted to eat, what time he would come home… then when he was indifferent, I “asked” him to take me here and there, trying to please him, meeting all his requests because I thought that this can warm up the love between husband and wife.
I think as long as I’m good enough and caring enough, I will be rewarded. I thought, “If a woman has merit, her husband will not betray her”, but it was all in vain. Now that I think back at that time, it’s funny to me, like someone who prostrates themselves “begging” for love.
In the world of love, a woman can love someone and love that person unconditionally, but remember to never give up your right to be loved and never let yourself become the one who has to beg for love. Love. Because the more you show that you can’t live without, can’t let go of the other person, the less he will care about you.
You meet all his needs, he may get bored of your “goodness” and want to look for another woman who can arouse his desire to conquer.
Instead of focusing on your husband, focus more on yourself. Sometimes, be a little “naughty” to let your husband know your importance in this house. Only then will he appreciate you more.
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3. When facing a crisis, don’t be too pessimistic. Even if your marriage is not good, you have to face it cheerfully
Divorce is a heavy blow. Depressed and miserable after a broken marriage, some people are even pessimistic about their future.
But is torturing yourself like this helpful? The breakdown of a marriage is both of your faults, not yours alone. The thing women should do most is stand up and smile to accept all the differences every day.
Of course I was in pain for a while. One day when I looked at myself in the mirror with messy hair and dull eyes, I realized that a woman being abandoned by her husband is not scary, but the scariest thing is when she abandons herself. me. At any time, women should face their lives with a smile.
Marriage is an inevitable thing in life for most people, and is also the destination for many women. However, no one can guarantee that marriage will last forever.
So, if unfortunately your marriage breaks down, remember to live happily for yourself, look to the future and try your best. Because in life, besides marriage, there is also yourself, family, friends and a good future ahead.
The more mature a woman is, the happier she becomes. The more independent a woman is, the easier it is to have a comfortable life. The more a woman knows how to love herself, the easier it is to be loved by others. I hope you are a woman who can control your own life, whether single or married.
