Rizz, benching or cobwebbing? As if it wasn’t difficult enough to open yourself up on dating apps, you also have to be aware of a whole host of abbreviations, terms and trends. Are you new to the dating market? Then all that jargon can sound very technical and daunting. Don’t worry, with these 21 words we will bring your vocabulary completely up to date.
1. Situationship
Not quite a relationship, but more than just sex, dating and affection. This is a difficult romantic situation, a kind of in-between phase, in which two people have not yet put a stamp on their ‘relationship’. Don’t feel obliged to define your situationship as a relationship, especially if you don’t feel like it or are not ready for it yet. Everything in due time, right?
2. Deep Liking
Do you know this? You get to know someone and would like to show that you are interested. With deep liking, you scroll all the way to the bottom of someone’s Instagram feed to also like the oldest photos. “Terrible!”, you may think, but don’t we all do that sometimes?
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3. Hardballing
Hardballing became very popular during corona times. You make it clear to someone from the start what your expectations or intentions are. This way you both know immediately what the situation is. Don’t be afraid to let it be known that you’re not looking for anything serious. In this way, many broken hearts can be prevented.
4. Cobwebbing
Do you still have a hoodie of your ex or your old photos on your mobile phone? Time to dust that off – literally – according to the new cobwebbing trend. In other words: get rid of it. Those who let go of old memories from previous relationships feel stronger and more confident in their own shoes. This would finally make you more open to new dates. And that’s positive, right?
5. Rizz
This term is currently very popular among Gen Z and on TikTok. Rizz is an abbreviation of the word ‘charisma’. It refers to how well someone can flirt or blow someone’s socks off. Especially through your appearance, charms and personality. Do you think you’ve got the rizz?
6. Breadcrumbing
Do you immediately think of the fairy tale of Hansel and Gretel? Bingo! Breadcrumbing is when you leave small breadcrumbs, or flirty texts, likes, or DMs, for someone. You do this to keep the conversation alive, but ultimately this interaction leads nowhere. Then opt for hardball, because stringing someone along is never pleasant.
7. Beige flags
You’ve probably heard of red and green flags: they indicate that your date is absolutely not suitable for you or is not a nice person, or is just that. Beige flags warn you that someone is too boring to date. You can prevent this yourself by sharing something unique about yourself on your dating profile, with a funny photo or some special hobbies in your bio. On the other hand, don’t be too quick to judge someone’s dating profile. In real life that person may come across differently.
8. Soft-launching
Many famous stars do it: discreetly post a photo or video of a new partner on social media, concealing their identity. From an elbow or hand on the table in a restaurant to a shoe that just appears in your photo. This is called ‘soft-launching’ your relationship. A good way to let them know that you are no longer single, without the pressure of officially introducing each other to friends or family members.
9. Sneaky link
A compound of the English verb to link and the word sneaky, or literally translated ‘to meet secretly’. Young people also use the term to describe a secret relationship, situationship or friends-with-benefits. Often because you don’t know yet which direction it will take or you don’t want to put a stamp on it yet and therefore prefer to keep it to yourself.
With gatsbying you only post selfies, photos or videos on social media in the hope that your crush will see them.
10. Gatsbying
This term arose thanks to the film ‘The Great Gatsby’, yes the one with Leonardo DiCaprio. In it, the main character Gatsby throws the most extravagant parties, all in the hope of attracting the attention of his lover, Daisy. So you only post selfies, photos or videos on social media in the hope that your crush will see them. It is important to just remain yourself. So don’t pretend to be anything other than who you are.
11. Date stacking
Everyone is extremely busy these days, and date stacking can be the ideal solution. You simply schedule several dates in one day: drink coffee together in the morning, have a nice lunch with date number two in the afternoon, and then end your evening with a last date in the bar. A kind of speed dating à la Gen Z. Make sure you set aside more time for your next date to make sure you click.
12. Haunting
You may already be familiar with ghosting, where someone suddenly cuts off contact without any warning or clear reason. You will never hear or see each other again. Haunting is slightly different, because you continue to interact with each other on social media. Don’t get carried away with this, otherwise you might think it means something more than it is.
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13. Zombie-ing
Another derivative of ghosting is zombie-ing. Your date ‘returns from the dead’, so to speak. After ghosting you for a while, you suddenly hear back from them. That could be a few weeks, but also months or even years later. If you experience this, think carefully about whether you want such a person in your life.
14. Orbiting
Orbiting also shows similarities with ghosting and actually even more with haunting. Again, it’s all about social media, when someone still watches all your Instagram Stories and likes all your posts or TikTok videos. However, there is no more direct communication or interaction. As a result, you still find yourself in someone’s ‘orbit’: kind of close, but at the same time far enough.
15. Groundhogging
Does “I always fall for the wrong types” sound familiar? Then you are the perfect example of groundhogging. That’s the bad habit of always going for the same types with whom it never ended well before. Yet you expect the result to be different every time. Rather take a different tack and go on a date with someone you wouldn’t immediately notice at first glance. Who knows, you might be pleasantly surprised?
16. Monkeying
If you think of Monkeying as a monkey swinging from tree to tree, then you are right. Although in the dating world it swings from relationship to relationship. Instead, take a break every now and then from dating different people. After the end of a previous relationship, give yourself enough time to mentally prepare for a new one.
When it comes to meeting family or friends, your dating partner keeps coming up with an excuse.
17. Pocketing
Everything goes smoothly: you and your date do a lot of fun things together, spend a lot of time together and you already have feelings for each other. However, there is one but, because when you want to meet family or friends, your dating partner always comes up with an excuse. Public affection or tagging yourself on Instagram is also not an option. That doesn’t mean your date doesn’t want to be with you anymore. Your ‘relationship’ or rather situationship just hasn’t developed enough yet to make things official.
18. Masterdating
Why wait for someone to ask you out when you can treat yourself to a night out? With master dating you go on a date with yourself. ‘Solo dining’ is already a real trend and people are less surprised if you sit alone in a restaurant. This way you get to know yourself better and especially what you are looking for in a relationship. It may even help you step into a new relationship with more confidence rather than fear of staying single forever.
19. Benching
This dating term is derived from the English word bench. In other words: you put someone on the bench or to the side, as you sometimes see in football. Suppose you see someone as potential relationship material, but you still have doubts. And instead of dumping that person, put your date in a mental “maybe” folder. This way you can wait and see if things don’t work out between you after all. But be careful with that, because you can give someone false hope.
Slow dating could be the key to a successful relationship
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20. Slow dating
Slow dating means that you and your date take things slowly. This is about quality instead of quantity, to get to know each other better before possibly starting a relationship. That increases the chance that that person might be ‘the one’ for you. According to dating app Fruitz, slow dating could be the key to a successful relationship.
21. Swouple
The question ‘How did you meet each other?’ still often causes awkward silences. Many couples are shy and unsure about sharing how their love story started on a dating app. Pretty crazy in a world where online dating is the norm. That’s why the dating app Fruitz came up with a completely new term: the swouple. A portmanteau of swiping and couple and a cooler label for couples who met through a dating app. Are you a swouple? Then you can be more than proud of that.
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2023-10-20 14:03:00
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